Kelli is a devoted daughter. She became a caregiver for her mom when she was in her 20’s and her Mom was in her 50’s. She also had a 16 year old brother at the time. She didn’t know she was a family caregiver, she just thought she was doing what daughter’s do.
Her years of caregiving exposed her to so many issues other family caregivers come across, that she changed careers to help others. After 11 years operating a home care business, she has branched out yet again. Her online company, TheDevotedDaughter.com offers resources and support for other family caregivers.
Kelli tells us what she thinks is the number one issue that affects families. She’ll also share with you some other tips for making this time of life easier for you and your loved ones.
Palliative care does not equal dying. With 25 years as a palliative care physician, Dr. Michael Barbato has spent a lot of time helping people understand that palliative care can actually improve the quality of life. The focus is on providing relief of pain and stress caused by serious illness.
Being in this specialty area, Dr. Barbato has spent countless hours at the bedside of the dying. And what he has seen and learned from them fascinates him. And has taught him empathy and compassion.
He and his wife, Ann, teach others how to be at the bedside of the dying. Through their midwifing death course, they teach healthcare professionals and laypeople how to care for both the living and the dying. By helping them acknowledge their own beliefs and fears, they can then sit with the dying without judgement, and be present.
Michael believes that end of life visions and dreams can be healing messages not only to the dying, but family members as well. He and Ann teach others how to be present with quality; treating death as a natural phenomenon. And helping providers learn to ask non-clinical questions, to help the dying and their families through the process.
Find out more about their work and where to find his books at Midwifing Death
Judith was living and working on the West Coast when her parents’ health declined, requiring her to return to Florida to be able to assist with their care. As a result of her family caregiver experience, she wrote a handbook which offers invaluable information to other family caregivers that she learned the hard way.
In her book, Judith shares invaluable information which reinforces the need to ask questions like:
How long will my Mom/Dad be in the hospital?
Are they admitted or under observation status?
And to consider the “real cost of caregiving”, because it very often affects YOU!! There are 65 million family caregivers and 60% of them (mostly women) are working outside the home, while providing care. It is SO important to understand the complexities of this.
You can find out more by listening to this episode and checking out Judith at:
This was hanging in the elevator at the assisted living facility my Mom spent the last 2 years of her life in. I thought it was appropriate for today’s post. When your parent’s are no longer alive, the holidays are different. But I’m grateful. They both instilled in me a love of family and time spent together during the holidays.
Today’s episode is a gentle nudge (well, maybe an in your face nudge), to start the conversation with your parents this weekend. I share some statistics that reflect that fact that people want to talk about end of life wishes, but it isn’t happening. So someone just needs to start the ball rolling. Why me you ask? Why not you…